Praying Circles around Your Children- Triggers, Part 2

Triggers, Part 2

Children and toddlers lined both sides of the table, babbling, joyfully anticipating the traditional Friday meal out.  The children outnumbered parents almost six to one, so in the name of efficiency, one Mom traveled down the line  with antibacterial drops, blobbing a small portion on each  outstretched hand.  When she neared my youngest son, I called, “Stop!”  It was too late.  I saw the drop of sticky goo suspended in mid-air.  My body seemed to only work in slow motion as I tried to get to him.  He let out a loud, long, guttural wail and then he fell forward, his mouth still agape, his lips blue.
“I’m sorry!” my mom friend offered.

  Any antiseptic sent him into a meltdown in his early years.  How do we pray for our kids in the midst of a trigger?  How do we help them through.  There’s an old adage, “Time heals all wounds”.  That is not true!  Time does not heal. 


If a trigger is not addressed and time simply passes, a child will not heal or overcome the trauma.  That is why circling your child in prayer is so important.   My youngest son no longer melts down at a drop of antibacterial  hand sanitizer.  


How did I pray for him and how did he overcome this?  I wish I had some magic formula to whisk pain away and remove all difficult circumstances.  I couldn’t pray for all hand sanitizer to vanish from the face of the earth.  I did pray that God would heal him and then I had to help him do it afraid.  


If we removed every obstacle from our children’s lives, how would they learn to overcome?  More sensitivity needs to be applied to children who have come from hard places, but they too must learn to ‘do it afraid’.   


Paul does not admonish us to pray for removal of the circumstance, but the secret to facing any circumstance is the strength that Christ gives us.


12 I know how to be abased and live humbly in straitened circumstances, and I know also how to enjoy plenty and live in abundance. I have learned in any and all circumstances the secret of facing every situation, whether well-fed or going hungry, having a sufficiency and enough to spare or going without and being in want.
13 I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who <sup class="footnote" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="[a]”>[a]infuses inner strength into me; I am <sup class="footnote" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="[b]”>[b]self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency]. -Philippians 4:12-13
Christ’s strength is infused in us.  He gives us strength for all things.  As I mentioned in my last post, I still have triggers that I am working thorough with the help of Christ.  I empathize with my children and I am more willing to pray for them in their times of struggle, hypersensitivity and regression because I am just a weakling.  For years, I let fear boss me around.  Triggers shot me out the door like a bullet.  I would have been the Israelite who turned and ran back to Egypt instead of crossing THROUGH the Red Sea because it would have been too claustrophobic-feeling-scary for me.  What if God forgot for a moment to suspend the laws of nature and a wave crashed over me (cause I am not valuable enough to save)?  
Hurt children have overwhelming catastrophic fears.  If they cannot control the day- something will go wrong.  If the schedule changes-something horrible might happen.  If people are wearing white lab coats-they will hurt me.  
 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control.               -II Timothy 1:7 
Yes, the scripture I pray for myself (last post), I pray for my children. I am thankful for EVERYTHING I went through in my life and my residual triggers because I can attest of His faithfulness and deliverance to my children when I sit, when I stand, when I walk by the way, in an elevator and a tunnel.
* Click on Red Sea above to read blogger Tracey’s post!
Next time:
Meltdowns are Opportunities! 





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