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Start a tradition.
“Make sure the good ground of your home includes an abundance of laughter,parties, celebrations, presents, candles, Christmas trees, gifts, surprises, rocky road ice cream, jokes, backyard picnics,….” -Bill Carmichael, Seven Habits of a Healthy Home
The truth is we each have traditions whether we choose them or just participate in them by default. We say to our spouses, “But, my mom did it this way.” The traditions are seared into our minds so deeply that we consider them dates on a calendar instead of choices.
Our children who have come from hard places may have traditions embedded in their lives too. They may traditionally remember no dinner on Christmas day or presents. They may have treated Christmas as just another day.
Dare to parent. Choose a tradition of your own.
So, when you decide to start a new tradition, give the child fair warning. Also, a caution, don’t listen to complaining or whining. The beginning of a tradition now is a pocket full of memories later.
20 When your son asks you in time to come, What is the meaning of the testimonies and statutes and precepts which the Lord our God has commanded you?
21 Then you shall say to your son, We were Pharaoh’s bondmen in Egypt, and the Lord brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand.
22 And the Lord showed signs and wonders, great and evil, against Egypt, against Pharaoh, and all his household, before our eyes;
23 And He brought us out from there, that He might bring us in to give us the land which He swore to give our fathers.
24 And the Lord commanded us to do all these statutes, to [reverently] fear the Lord our God for our good always, that He might preserve us alive, as it is this day.- Deuteronomy 6: 20-24
Make sure you have a reason for your tradition and you can put it into words. When you can explain why you do your tradition and what it represents, you are more likely to continue it and your children (when they get a bit older) will more willing (not completely) to participate in it. When the Lord brought the Israelites out of Egypt with a mighty hand, they started some new holy traditions. God instructed them to retell the story of their flight to freedom and God’s miracles that got them to the promised land. When we explain things to our children it clarifies why we do things and solidifies our faith and their’s.