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Tip 20- Don’t expect your children to understand the true meaning of Christmas.
Daughter Ania and I hopped into the car after an evening of Christmas shopping at Ikea. Sirri decided to send us in circles before putting on the the interstate and gave us a three hour drive time for our one and a half hour trip. Was that her idea of a joke? Half an hour down the road we hit snow and bumper to bumper traffic. Huge rigs pulled on the side of the road to avoid the slip and slide routine going on with cars. We snailed our way along singing Christmas songs with Pentatonix (we do the sound effects in the background perfectly) and laughing til tears streamed down our cheeks. Oh… Christmas. We arrived home safe and sound two and a half hours later, tired and happy. How did you know Sirri?
Or better yet, did Mary know?(Mom joke) Really, what does this have to do with kids knowing the meaning of Christmas? Lots. You see, we sometimes over spiritualize Christmas. Do you hear me serious sister? As Moms, we are constantly reminding ourselves of the true meaning of Christmas and in a parallel universe, checking off a to do list like a maniac:
- WRAP PRESENTS -CHECK
- ORDER LAST MINUTE FROM AMAZON BEFORE TOO LATE -CHECK
- MAKE PIE
- RUN OUT FOR STOCKING STUFFERS- CHECK
- CLEAN- CHECK
And when our children ask for time, tire from activities, walk around in sugar comas and meltdown, we Moms despair of our kids ever understanding the true meaning of Christmas. When the kids play with the plastic nativity scene and have Mary duke it out with Joseph of the Wisemen, we may wonder if they will ever ‘get it’.
BUT- AND THIS IS A BIG BUT…..
Do we get it?
If we do and we live consistently, acting on that belief, then they WILL get it. It won’t be a shopping trip to IKEA and driving home in snow. It will be Christmas.
Christmas isn’t a day, well…..it is, a day we Christians picked to celebrate the birth of our Savior. I won’t get into all the theology, but if you want to know more about it, read a great series here. Christmas is a belief that God came to earth as a human babe. He left his throne and God-form to set up His kingdom on earth, not for a day- for eternity.
When we live in accordance with that kingdom-
But seek (aim at and strive after) first of all His kingdom and His righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things taken together will be given you besides.-Matthew 6:33
When we live with this in mind and action, knowing He works out everything in agreement with the counsel and design of His [own] will.
God sent His son to checkmate satan, to turn the tide in the game, to take us from the course and fashion of this world, take control back from the prince of the power of the air and establish His kingdom in our hearts and on the earth.
Kids aren’t going to respect Christmas because we put up a tree or purchased the perfect presents. They aren’t going to act like angelic beings because we celebrate some man made traditions. However, they are going to watch us. If our actions are consistent with our beliefs, they will get it.
Just don’t expect them to float around singing the Handel’s Hallelujah Chorus unless you are!
Your children will get it, if you live it. It is a process. It takes time. You weren’t born with wisdom and understanding. Neither are they. We understand it part. They understand in bits. Wait for it.