25 Days of Thriving Through Christmas An Advent Devotional for Adoptive and Foster Families – Coming soon!

If you have adopted or foster children, this is for you. If you have a special needs child, this is for you. If even thinking about the busy Christmas season coming in a few months makes you break out into hives, this is for you. If you're thinking about skipping the festivities altogether because it's just [...]

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Investment Parenting with Co-Regulation

Susie, a friend of mine (plus foster and adoptive Mom) shared a conundrum she had recently while teaching four year-olds during Sunday school class. A new little one melted down and hid under the table. She had no special instructions for the little one and wasn't sure how to handle it. You see, there is [...]

Understanding Your Adopted/Foster Child’s History

“A scar is evidence of a wound, but also evidence that we can heal.”- Scott McClellan I didn’t think it would be this hard. My child’s behaviors are out of control. He got kicked off the school bus AGAIN. He keeps punching kids in line. The whole house is like a war zone. I thought [...]

Co-regulation & Self Regulation

Last Wednesday, I promised to follow up on my three points on Burden Bearing Mothers. Today, I am talking about number one. Children from hard places CAN'T, Not WON'T bear their own burdens. They cannot self-regulate. He ran through the house, knocking chairs over and books off the shelves. "I can't get him to behave," [...]

Burden Bearing Mothers

We women sat in Bible study sharing our burdens. We didn't get to the lesson. All of us had so many things we needed to process and pray for. The common theme? Our children. There is nothing like a Mother's love for her child. There is also like a Mother's burden of guilt if she feels [...]