Feigned Feminism Reboot

Russell Moore, author of Adopted for Life, tells a story about meeting an adoptive couple at a conference. They wanted him to see the boy they had adopted from a former Soviet State. Moore knelt down to greet the little one. He had Arab or Persian roots and boasted beautiful olive skin.  Asked if they had any issues in the adoption process the wife answered, “the only problem we had was with the judge. The judge thought there was some mistake that we’d want this child because he’s dark skinned. The judge said no one would want a child like that and that there were plenty of light-skinned babies available. He just couldn’t believe that we would want him…”

When you read this, what sort of emotion did it evoke? Anger? Sadness? Disbelief? It’s a despicable thing to despise a child because of his color. It causes our Mama Bear to rise up in defense of this child. We just know it isn’t right. It can’t be right. It’s what C.S. Lewis talks about in Mere Christianity-

“And what did God do? First of all He left us conscience, the sense of right and wrong and all through history there have been people trying (some of them very hard) to obey it.”

Our conscience, given to us by God, tells us that a judge saying a boy doesn’t has value because he has dark skin is wrong. There have been many people over the years who have tried to obey their conscience. There have been wars fought over color, culture,pride, religion, land, and in the middle of each of these, there are those who worked tirelessly to advance the cause of Christ. By that I mean, live by the conscience and be a light in the darkness.

I want to be a light in that darkness. That’s why I am starting the series Feigned Feminism Fridays again. As a women, my conscience tells me something is not quite right in the church when it comes to feminism. Some women embrace modern feminism wholeheartedly. Some rant and rave against it. But, it is there, it exists. It sits on the shoulders of some great women and some not so great women. Let’s not discount the idea without some research, some digging around using the evidential method.

Feigned Feminism Friday

“When God desires to do “a new thing” (Is. 43:19), He purposely seeks out a few righteous renegades who don’t have a problem breaking the mold! Mold breakers are usually people who don’t care  much about popularity or tradition.” – Beth Moore

If you want to know what is most valuable, look for what is most fought against, what is being battled most vehemently and violently profaned. There is the crux of true feminism, equality. Value. In the eyes of our heavenly Father, equality already exists. In the eyes of this present darkness, it is muddled by the culture and those who have the loudest voices.

In Christ’s family there can be no division into Jew and non-Jew, slave and free, male and female. Among us you are all equal. That is, we are all in a common relationship with Jesus Christ. Also, since you are Christ’s family, then you are Abraham’s famous “descendant,” heirs according to the covenant promises. – Galatians 3:28,29

Feminism- the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men. (dictionary.com)

Why is the word feigned in the series title?

feigned-simulated or pretended; insincere.

I’ll just be up front. I think the modern feminism is pretend. It’s not true feminism. It’s not true equal rights. If you want to read more about the origins of feminism, start here and work your way through the series.

Are you willing to challenge yourself? Are you ready to step into the pages of history and find out what Biblical feminism is? Do you want to take a stand with me? If so, join me on Fridays. I don’t claim to have all the answers. We probably won’t agree on everything, but that’s okay. I’m not here with a hammer or a gavel. I’m just seeking answers myself. Can we seek them together?

I know I promised you a totally different post for today and that will have to wait for next week. Not only have I had a stomach bug (which threw me off track) but I didn’t want to dive right in without a proper invitation. I appreciate thoughts, comments and questions- about feminism, not the stomach bug. ♥


Feigned Feminism Friday Part Two

Feigned Feminism FridayWelcome the the series Feigned Feminism Friday! If you missed the first article, you can catch up here.

Today I am delving into answering this question-Did feminism originally begin as a men bashing movement?


I sat in the Welfare Rights building waiting for my mom. I smoothed my maroon and plaid skirt while and dangled my legs over the chair while she volunteered. She helped single Moms get assistance in feeding their children and paying household bills. I had walked around the block from the Catholic school I attended, an extreme contrast, where most of the families were affluent and had two parents. My sister and I stuck out like sore thumbs, we were middle class and our mother had been divorced (and remarried). Mom still had the taste of lack bitter in her mouth (being single with four children) and she wanted to help other women in the same situation.

The breakdown of marriage in my lifetime.

“In 1969, Governor Ronald Reagan of California made what he later admitted was one of the biggest mistakes of his political life. Seeking to eliminate the strife and deception often associated with the legal regime of fault-based divorce, Reagan signed the nation’s first no-fault divorce bill. The new law eliminated the need for couples to fabricate spousal wrong doing in pursuit of divorce;… no fault divorce gutted marriage of its legal power to bind husband and wife, allowing one spouse to dissolve a marriage for any reason or no reason at all.” -www.nationalaffairs.com

From 1960 to 1980, the divorce rate more than doubled. Less than twenty percent of couples married in 1950 ended up in divorce while fifty percent of couples married in 1970 ended up in divorce(www.nationalaffairs.com).The nearly universal introduction of no fault divorce opened the floodgates and the sexual revolution added the fuel.

What does divorce have to do with feminism? This get out of marriage free card, no fault divorce gave men permission to abandon their families. Many women entered marriage with an understanding that they would stay at home and raise the children and run the household and hubby would work outside the home and support his family. When men began divorcing their wives, women were left in the lurch and a wave a feminism swept through our nation. Women, abandoned and rejected by their mates were treading water, trying to keep their heads above the waves of poverty and entering academia and the workforce to support their children. These women were angry, hurt and determined.

I grew up in the generation where all girls ‘need math and science’ and going to college was expected for us, because you never know what is going to happen, not because you are intelligent and deserve and education (the latter of which I was told at home). My mother was unique in her generation, she had a Master’s degree. Women began joining men at the universities, not to find a husband, but because they didn’t have the foundation, the covenant of marriage to stand on any more. Men seemed to have the power, the upper hand and women had to push back for the same pay for the same job accomplished. It became a bloody battlefield.

Women do have the right to be educated (that’s another post) and to pursue careers if they choose. This is the true ‘pro choice’, but by the same token, women should have to freedom to choose to be keepers at home and run a household (also another post). In fact a hefty and dangerous myth is gaining traction as fact, that you are subjicated, oppressed and you don’t have any real value. You are a servant with no power, no choice and you are uneducated and ill-informed.

What does this have to do with men bashing? Everything. Feminism is about equality for the sexes, right? Political equality, socio ecomomic equality? Problem is, the rules got changed and men forfeited their responsibility and women are left scrambling. Trying to find their footing and do two jobs at once.

Secular or feigned feminism started out with the right idea. It’s just gone to far. The truth is every movement starts for a good reason. The reason feminism began is because there was/is a gross inequality when it comes to treatment of women. Not only did the rules change on women, the whole game changed.

True feminism isn’t about bashing men, it’s about expecting equality. It is about women expecting men to fulfill the covenant made at the altar. It’s about equal wages for a job.

Feigned feminism has gone too far. What started out as women being rejected and satan derailing the purpose of women have driven many to the destination of destruction of men and family.

“You may be wondering which came first, the chicken- feminism-or the egg- male selfishness and immaturity. I believe the answer is feminism. For the first day that The Feminine Mystique hit the bookstands, feminism did not focus on equal pay for equal work, but on how marriage, husbands, men in general, and children in specific were enemies and the oppressors of true womanhood.”- Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Women, you have power, you have the power of influence. Don’t use it to bash men over the head. Bashing men over the head is not the goal of true feminism.




Feigned Feminism Friday Series Part I

Feigned Feminism Friday

Feminism- the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men. (dictionary.com)


Welcome to the series “Feigned Feminism Friday”!  I am excited about this series! Thanks for joining me!  I wanted to start out with a definition, just to be clear about what I mean when speaking about feminism.

What sort  of topics will this series cover?

  1. When and why did feminism begin?
  2. Did it originally begin as a men bashing movement?
  3. Why does today’s brand of feminism frown on women staying home to raise a family?
  4. What about a women’s right to choose (pertaining to her body and health care)? Is the right to choose feminism?
  5. How did the second wave of feminism start in the U.S. and how are we influenced by it today?
  6. What about education for women, is that feminism?
  7. What kind of power do women have, i.e., what is true feminism?

Why is the word feigned in the series title?

feigned-simulated or pretended; insincere.

I’ll just be up front. I think the modern feminism is pretend. It’s not true feminism. It’s not true equal rights. I’ll get more into that later. Now you have the foundation of the title, let’s move forward.

When and why did feminism begin?

“Now the serpent was more subtle and crafty than any living creature of the field which the Lord God had made. And he [Satan] said to the woman, Can it really be that God has said, You shall not eat from every tree of the garden?”- Genesis 3:1

Eve is hanging out in the garden and here comes satan, not a tiny garter snake, but a huge creature. He went straight for Eve, why?

Several of my sons (and hubby) are history buffs. One in particular loves Civil War history, particularly the battles. War strategy is not my strength, I don’t know how to get out a map and plan out a battle. One thing I have learned is, if you can, target people in the position of power and the whole infrastructure may crumble. Often we hear that satan went after Eve because she was weak. What if he went after her because she was powerful? Think about that for a minute. Let your suppositions reshuffle. It’s okay. I can wait. Ready?

The word subtle in the Hebrew -(עָרוּם) adjective crafty, shrewd, sensible

Satan was crafty, shrewd and according to Bible teacher and theologian, Jim Cavins (author of the Great Adventure Bible Study), intimidating. He went after Eve because she was powerful, not because she was weak. He went after her by using her weakness. Don’t confuse the two. She had the power of influence. As the mother of all living, women bring life wherever they go. They have influence, as proved by Eve convincing Adam to eat the fruit.(More on this topic in a later post). In one moment, Eve used her power to change the world, as they ate from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and instantly lost their preternatural gifts.

The Curse followed.

 And the Lord God said to the serpent, Because you have done this, you are cursed above all [domestic] animals and above every [wild] living thing of the field; upon your belly you shall go, and you shall eat dust [and what it contains] all the days of your life.

15 And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her [a]Offspring; He will bruise and tread your head underfoot, and you will lie in wait and bruise His heel.“-Genesis 3:14, 15

True feminism is a battle against the curse. The curse of satan, ever adamant to destroy the true purpose of women. The curse of the battle, which isn’t against flesh and blood humans, but against principalities and world-rulers of this present darkness (Ephesians 6:12) the enmity between the woman and satan.  Satan twisted the Word and bruises and treads on our heads with his non existent feet, that is, he fills women’s minds with falsehoods, telling us that we are a lesser species, that what we do is not valuable, that we must be like men in order to be powerful. The sad truth is many of us have stopped fighting and we believe the lie that we must be the version of feminism fed to us by cultural elitists of today. Women must remember he is like a small dog, nipping at our heels. We must smash his head with the truth. Feminism began in the garden of Eden.

Let me take you a step back, one chapter earlier when Eve was created.

“Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.” Genesis 2:18

“In Genesis 2:18 the word “Helpmeet” does not occur. The Hebrew expression ezer kenegdo appears meaning “one who is the same as the other and who surrounds, protects, aids and supports’. There is no indication of inferiority or of a secondary position in a hierarchical separation of the male and female “spheres” of responsibility, authority or social position.”- Dr. Susan Hyatt, In the Spirit We’re Equal

I hauled out my huge Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance and studied myself (cause that’s me) and it is true. God always intended for men and women to be equal. Satan started the war on the sexes and between them in the garden. It’s been going on ever since, satan nipping at  women’s heels (and that of her offspring) through the culture of civilizations from the beginning to the misguided feminism in our’s today. The more evil the culture the more women are mistreated, misused  and devalued. Women and men are not the same, that’s where feigned feminism gets off track. We are unique and have distinctive gifts, talents and strengths. That’s another post!

To wrap it up? Why feminism?

The purpose of Adam and Eve was to be one holy family. Family is the foundation of God’s world. He has made it so.

“As the source of the family and life itself, the union of the sexes ‘is placed at the center of the great struggle between good and evil, between life and all that is opposed to love.”- Theology of the Body for Beginners

If you want to know what is most valuable, look for what is most fought against, what is being battled most vehemently and violently profaned. There is the crux of true feminism, equality. In the eyes of our heavenly Father, equality already exists. In the eyes of this present darkness, it is muddled, captive by satan’s  so-called philosophy, intellectualism and vain deceit (idle fancies and plain nonsense), following human tradition (men’s ideas of the material rather than the spiritual world) (Colossians 2:8).  Profaning the value women and their power of influence, to tear down the family is the purpose of satan, see the curse, he bears his fangs and bites where our suppositions, ideas, theologies originate. Women’s heads are filled with false doctrine. When our Achilles heel is damaged, we cannot walk in our purpose.

When did feminism begin?

In the Garden of Eden. Both true feminism, equality with men and feigned feminism, the war of the sexes for equality, both began in the first three chapters of the history  of civilization.

“There is [now no distinction] neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is not male and female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”– Galatians 3:28

Special thanks to friend, Lori Shaffer, who via text helped me brainstorm topics for this series!  I had ideas, she helped me think through some questions. If you have a question pertaining to feminism, leave it in the comments and I will try to address it!

Next Friday, join me when I get answer -Did it originally begin as a men bashing movement?