Feigned Feminism Friday Part Four

Feigned Feminism Friday

Welcome to part four of the series Feigned Feminism Friday! If you are just joining me, start here to catch up.

Last week I began answering this question: Why does today’s brand of feminism frown on women staying home to raise a family? 

I’m starting with reason two today. (You can find reason one here).

2. Modern feminism has the conception that a woman staying home to raise a family is devalued, subjugated, and not living up to her full potential.

I’m going to beat about the bush in order to get to a point. Bear with me. Strap on your thinking cap while we employ some Winnie the Pooh philosophy and think, think, think.

Let’s start in the book of Romans, chapter 1:

“21 Because when they knew and recognized Him as God, they did not honor and glorify Him as God or give Him thanks. But instead they became futile and [c]godless in their thinking [with vain imaginings, foolish reasoning, and stupid speculations] and their senseless minds were darkened.

22 Claiming to be wise, they became fools [professing to be smart, they made simpletons of themselves].

23 And by them the glory and majesty and excellence of the immortal God were exchanged for and represented by images, resembling mortal man and birds and beasts and reptiles.

24 Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their [own] hearts to sexual impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves [abandoning them to the degrading power of sin],

25 Because they exchanged the truth of God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, Who is blessed forever! Amen (so be it).(C)

26 For this reason God gave them over and abandoned them to vile affections and degrading passions. For their women exchanged their natural function for an unnatural and abnormal one,”

Humanism is the worship of men, rather than God. It says the height of morality is simply living by the laws of men, a practice recommended by Socrates.

We have vain imaginings, sister, foolish reasoning and stupid speculations. Our senseless minds become darkened as we try to be like the opposite sex. We dishonor our bodies, physically, spiritually and emotionally when we don’t walk in the gifts given to us women.  Trying to be what we are not is unnatural and abnormal.We exchange what is natural for unnatural. It causes stress on our bodies, it exhausts us and can make us physically sick.

Idolatry is sometimes birthed out of abandonment and rejection. This leaves us stuck in Glasser’s first need, survival or Driekur’s mistaken goal , if you are not paying attention to me, I am not valuable.

Homemaking is a hidden job, most of the work is never seen nor acknowledged and the satisfaction that comes from a job well done must be internal and not external. When we begin to worship the creature (ourselves or the approval of others), we become unnatural in our affections.

Women are designed to nurture, to be bearers of wisdom, to be multitaskers, to encourage, to  pray with patience, make the home (and the world) beautiful. We are the mothers of life. We bring life. We make a home beautiful or ugly. We can make our homes a comfortable safe haven. I don’t mean we are all professional decorators, I mean the beauty of home when hubby comes home after a hard day, that mom sense, the wisdom and discernment that your kiddo needs some words of insight or time to de-stress.

“That problem is a frequent one, especially with women over marinated in the most negative beliefs of the women’s movement-that is that society and men will oppress; they are the enemy; do not submit; terminate or dominate. And men are easily dominated with negativity from their women.”- Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Women use the power of influence negatively and homes are destroyed. We demand our rights, privileges and leave our offspring in the pursuit of happiness instead of the pursuit of purpose given to us. We believe the lie served to us in the form of humanism, man is God or in this case, women.

Women, there is an enemy out there and it is not man (though he often works through men), it is the serpent who swaggered up to Eve and told her God didn’t care enough. Her Father had lied, he hissed, there was something better for her and God was holding out on her. She bought it, hook, line and sinker. Now, he prowls about like a roaring lion, seeking who he may devour. He steals, kills and destroys. He plants ideas, theologies, vain philosophies into the minds of his prey, nipping at women’s heels, rendering them impotent, or worse, potently poison.

“This is the true beginning point-God, He is the one who created babies bursting with life and the mamas who love to care for and watch over them. He brought forth from His imagination the most beautiful garden, threw galaxies of stars into orbit, and painted our world with color. In keeping with His character, He must have intended something beautiful in creating a woman with the ability to give life, nurture with love and cultivate the soul of a precious human being entrusted into her hand.”- Sally Clarkson

Dear one, this article is not to bash you over the head if you work outside the home. This is a reminder of the original design and plan of what God intended for women, to use their power of influence for good and not to be ashamed to answer the question, “What do you do for a living?” If God has put it on your heart to be a manager of your home and not to work outside of the home, don’t be ashamed,  walk in the natural gifts that God has given you. You are valuable. Modern feminism telling you that your value is ONLY outside the home  is wrong. I’ll end with a quote from C.S. Lewis:

“The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career. ”




Feigned Feminism Friday Part Three

Feigned Feminism Friday

Gloria Steinem, the queen bee of modern feminism, said to Bill Maher of HBO, “Women are more for Clinton than men are, women get more radical as they get older… but men tend to get more conservative as they age because they gain more power and women get more radical because they lose power.”

My head was aching and my emotions on overdrive as I perused sites on feminism looking for facts for this series. You know what I saw over and over? Women who feel as if they have no power. Women who at some point who have been abused/rejected/abandoned and now they are fighting back.

Mission statement (feminist.org)

“The Feminist Majority Foundation (FMF) was created to develop bold, new strategies and programs to advance women’s equality, non-violence, economic development, and, most importantly, empowerment of women and girls in all sectors of society. All programs of the FMF endeavor to include a global perspective and activities to promote leadership development, especially among young women. Along with reproductive rights and access to reproductive technology, the FMF’s programs have focused on the empowerment of women in law, business, medicine, academia, sports, and the Internet.” (underscoring mine)

  • FMF promotes non-violence and works to eliminate violence against women.
  • FMF supports, legal and accessible abortion, contraception, and family planning, including Medicaid funding and access for minors.-www.feminist.org

One of the sad facts I found across the board is the break down of family because of feminism. Our society likes to blame it on the women who have left the home for the workforce and I can’t agree, not totally. There is never a shift in society without a reason and feminism had a lever applied to it by the CIA, for one, and from those who would benefit from the break down of the foundation of society. I’m not going to go on and on about conspiracy theories, that’s not what this is about. This is about we women, right here and now stopping to think about where feminism came from (find more here) and answering some tough questions about it. I’ll post more about the family planning and abortion in another post, just another crack in the foundation of family and devaluing human life.

Today I am focusing on the question:

  1. Why does today’s brand of feminism frown on women staying home to raise a family?

Three Reasons modern feminism frowns on women staying home to raise a family.

Reason One:

If you peruse the back issues of Ms. Magazine, you find articles that are scary:

The Cruelest Weapon-With rape so prevalent in conflict zones, the U.S. must lift the  unwarranted ban on war-related abortions.

That’s not a recipe for your Grandma’s apple pie. This is war. Rape. Murder. Fear.  Most women who enter the modern feminism movement have been hurt, abandoned, rejected, raped, discarded, not valued. Women are saturated, marinated in the idea that women are powerless unless they follow the modern feminist agenda. These women educated themselves, work their fingers to the bone and climb the slippery rungs of the ladder where men seem to have to power. Notice, I said, seem.

These woman may have been raised in a dysfunctional family or schooled in an environment that taught them that power comes by being like a man instead of being like a woman. The modern idea that men and women are alike , that the unique characteristics are ‘stereotypes’ and that we are one creature, instead of two distinct ones, men and women. We function in unique capacities.

Back to fear. Women fear acting in the capacity they were born to because the men they trusted (fathers, husbands, uncles, etc), especially husbands who were commissioned to love them as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it, didn’t follow the command. Instead, a man beat them, abused them or didn’t provide for their needs. So, women are afraid to submit (submission is another post) and do what they are designed to do. Nurture. Make a home. Build up their husbands. Respect. Revere. Make a beautiful safe haven.

Instead, they are out in the world fighting the battles that men are supposed to fight for them. They fear losing power and so they pursue it. When men follow their natural inclination, which is to serve and protect women, there is no fear in that sort of love because perfect love casts out all fear. There is no fear of mis-use or abuse when a man takes his place and is respected for it. Fear is powerful. Feeling powerless creates anxiety, so women seek power. When power of choice or the luxury of a safe home is not available then women leave the home and make a way for themselves and/or their children. I don’t want to turn this into a men bashing post, but the truth remains, that if the man does his job, the woman doesn’t have to. As, I said, there is never a shift in society without a reason, the shift of feminism began with rejection, abandonment, abuse, and loss of true power. Women fear staying home because they fear a loss of power.

Have you been believed the lie of modern feminism that you are powerless? Or have you been abused, rejected, abandoned, raped or let down by the man or men who were supposed to care for you? Are you living in fear? This article is not to convince you to ‘stay home where you belong’ or not to have a career. It’s about why women fear walking in their God given gifts. If one of the above has happened to you, I understand. It is difficult to trust when those in authority have let you down. It makes us angry and want to lash out or get the last word or find some power of our own. That is a natural response. We are given the gift of anger to tell us when we have been hurt. We might wonder where God is in all of this and why He has abandoned us. He is here and He hasn’t abandoned you. He doesn’t love men more than women. He sees them as equally valuable. He also sees our rights as equally valuable, He will never take away a person’s right to choose, NEVER, whether for good or evil. He will also never take away the consequences of an action. Vengeance is His. He will make whomever harmed you, pay. He will. It may not be the way you want it to be or in the time frame you want it to be, but He will.

If you don’t believe God believes in consequences, read through the Old Testament. Here’s just one quick example: Remember Joseph and his brothers? They sold him into slavery. God saved their lives through Joseph’s position of power, but He did not remove the consequences. Because the brothers sold Joseph into slavery, the new nation of Israel spent four hundred years enslaved by the Egyptians, the very nation that God gave Joseph a position of power in.

The most important thing for you dear girl, is to value yourself, not to keep going down a dark road of hate and seeking to destroy. That is what satan does.

I’m ending this post with prayer for women.

Dear Jesus, women have been abused, hurt and neglected in our nation. I don’t want to men bash, I want to remember that our war is not against flesh and blood. Satan has been in the business of destroying families since the garden of Eden. I pray that you will heal women who have been hurt, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Please give us the revelation of the power that we have and help us use it according to your will and your way, not the modern philosophies of humanism and the parts of feminism that run contrary to your Word. Help us heal so that our children and families can heal. Help us do the difficult act of forgiveness, for ourselves and families, so you can work in our lives. Whatever we have suffered unjustly, we offer it to you and ask you to make something good out of it. Thank you for good gifts in our lives, help us to see them, despite the pain. Thank you for the power of Jesus’ resurrection working in us to make us strong women, beloved of you. 

Join me next Friday, when we tackle reason two!

Feigned Feminism Friday Part Two

Feigned Feminism FridayWelcome the the series Feigned Feminism Friday! If you missed the first article, you can catch up here.

Today I am delving into answering this question-Did feminism originally begin as a men bashing movement?


I sat in the Welfare Rights building waiting for my mom. I smoothed my maroon and plaid skirt while and dangled my legs over the chair while she volunteered. She helped single Moms get assistance in feeding their children and paying household bills. I had walked around the block from the Catholic school I attended, an extreme contrast, where most of the families were affluent and had two parents. My sister and I stuck out like sore thumbs, we were middle class and our mother had been divorced (and remarried). Mom still had the taste of lack bitter in her mouth (being single with four children) and she wanted to help other women in the same situation.

The breakdown of marriage in my lifetime.

“In 1969, Governor Ronald Reagan of California made what he later admitted was one of the biggest mistakes of his political life. Seeking to eliminate the strife and deception often associated with the legal regime of fault-based divorce, Reagan signed the nation’s first no-fault divorce bill. The new law eliminated the need for couples to fabricate spousal wrong doing in pursuit of divorce;… no fault divorce gutted marriage of its legal power to bind husband and wife, allowing one spouse to dissolve a marriage for any reason or no reason at all.” -www.nationalaffairs.com

From 1960 to 1980, the divorce rate more than doubled. Less than twenty percent of couples married in 1950 ended up in divorce while fifty percent of couples married in 1970 ended up in divorce(www.nationalaffairs.com).The nearly universal introduction of no fault divorce opened the floodgates and the sexual revolution added the fuel.

What does divorce have to do with feminism? This get out of marriage free card, no fault divorce gave men permission to abandon their families. Many women entered marriage with an understanding that they would stay at home and raise the children and run the household and hubby would work outside the home and support his family. When men began divorcing their wives, women were left in the lurch and a wave a feminism swept through our nation. Women, abandoned and rejected by their mates were treading water, trying to keep their heads above the waves of poverty and entering academia and the workforce to support their children. These women were angry, hurt and determined.

I grew up in the generation where all girls ‘need math and science’ and going to college was expected for us, because you never know what is going to happen, not because you are intelligent and deserve and education (the latter of which I was told at home). My mother was unique in her generation, she had a Master’s degree. Women began joining men at the universities, not to find a husband, but because they didn’t have the foundation, the covenant of marriage to stand on any more. Men seemed to have the power, the upper hand and women had to push back for the same pay for the same job accomplished. It became a bloody battlefield.

Women do have the right to be educated (that’s another post) and to pursue careers if they choose. This is the true ‘pro choice’, but by the same token, women should have to freedom to choose to be keepers at home and run a household (also another post). In fact a hefty and dangerous myth is gaining traction as fact, that you are subjicated, oppressed and you don’t have any real value. You are a servant with no power, no choice and you are uneducated and ill-informed.

What does this have to do with men bashing? Everything. Feminism is about equality for the sexes, right? Political equality, socio ecomomic equality? Problem is, the rules got changed and men forfeited their responsibility and women are left scrambling. Trying to find their footing and do two jobs at once.

Secular or feigned feminism started out with the right idea. It’s just gone to far. The truth is every movement starts for a good reason. The reason feminism began is because there was/is a gross inequality when it comes to treatment of women. Not only did the rules change on women, the whole game changed.

True feminism isn’t about bashing men, it’s about expecting equality. It is about women expecting men to fulfill the covenant made at the altar. It’s about equal wages for a job.

Feigned feminism has gone too far. What started out as women being rejected and satan derailing the purpose of women have driven many to the destination of destruction of men and family.

“You may be wondering which came first, the chicken- feminism-or the egg- male selfishness and immaturity. I believe the answer is feminism. For the first day that The Feminine Mystique hit the bookstands, feminism did not focus on equal pay for equal work, but on how marriage, husbands, men in general, and children in specific were enemies and the oppressors of true womanhood.”- Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Women, you have power, you have the power of influence. Don’t use it to bash men over the head. Bashing men over the head is not the goal of true feminism.




A Life Interrupted (Three Word Wednesday)

My journal propped up against my knees, I write and sip my grapefruit water (my new favorite beverage)

grapefruit waterHalf the pool is shaded now as the afternoon moves out and evening moves in. My muscles, tense earlier, relaxed by a walk, a soak in the pool and some great conversations with some of my children. Truth is, none of this was on my schedule.

My plans for the day were written in the early morning hours complete with small lines for check marks after I completed the jobs. They sit vacant another day because the Lord had other plans. He often does.

 A man’s mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps and makes them sure.  .- Proverbs 16:9

A My mind is great at planning my way.

_____ Write Three Posts

_____ Clean house (especially downstairs)

_____ Weed flower garden

_____ Finish painting around fireplace and put all pics back up

_____ Sweep pool deck

_____ Clean up campfire pit

_____ Make poster board schedule (Camp Lemon-Lime)

* Camp Lemon-Lime starts Thursday the 16th at lunch and ends Sunday, the 19th at lunch-the reason for the extended to-do list. All the kids and grandkids are coming for fun, hiking, swimming, hammock swinging, campfires (more about this after the fact).

The Lord often leads me in a different direction. While my mind says get ‘er done, the Lord leads me like the sheep in Psalm 23 with His rod and staff. I’m the sheep holding up the rear, kicking and fighting every step of the way until I see those green pastures and I lie on a pool float in still waters. He says to me, rest, my burden is light, it’s easy to bear. Let me refresh your soul. I’m refreshed with a new attitude, my mind transformed when I pray, Not MY will, but thine, Lord. He chooses to fill my day with conversations quickened by coffee with Ania and a friend while eating waffles with homemade raspberry syrup. Blessings I would have missed because they weren’t on my checklist.

Hours later, Gregory comes home to wash clothes and eat lunch. We catch up while I make chicken salad and we eat cherries and strawberries while we stand around the island. Ania bursts in the back door and I smile. The pool she life guards closed early due to rain. We all join in, conversing, laughing.


Nothing on my checklist accomplished. It’s a long lunch that moves outside when the sun makes an appearance.

The day spends itself as the Lord wills. The interruptions are my life. I can see the green pasture or run back to the list of pen and paper, commanding me to jump through hoops and qualify for life by my productivity. A test of my soul. Do I believe the truth that I am valuable when I don’t complete my self-imposed check list? Do I value those around me in the same manner by lavishing my time on them, not spending, but investing.


I give myself a giant check mark. O Happy DAY! Well spent. Well offered, Lord. The path laid before me was better than the one I had planned.


Linking up with Kristin Hill Taylor for Three Word Wednesday!